Being a Friend to Yourself
It’s not only until we are lying down in bed, counting all of our problems that it registers we are alone. No one is sitting with us in our sorrow, anger or confusion. It’s just the sound of Jhene Aiko’s sultry voice that brings us to tears and we find an understanding within the music. And it is not until this moment, do we wish that someone were able to lie with us. Someone that we can speak to in confidence and trust that it will remain between you, the other person and the walls that guarded the conversation. As life begins to progress, the actuality of having to deal with some of your problems alone, sets in.
There are just some problems you can’t tell your friends about. There are other problems that you shouldn’t talk about with your mom. There’s always a fear of judgment when telling the girls your problems. Some times they don’t know what to say, so they say anything to make you feel better. Or they may just never say the right thing. Going through this can teach you a valuable lesson. There’s nothing like being your own best friend. No one is going to have your back like you do, so why rely on other people to give you advice.
In the beginning it will be hard to just keep problems to yourself and solve your issues on your own. This is due to that fact that EVERYONE loves confirmation, and the only way to seek confirmation is to tell your story and hope they have the same viewpoint. It’s OK to give a little juice to the girls every now and then but all the time can lead to a lack of dependence on your self. Besides who likes to hear you repeat the same story about you and your “boo.” Save your friends the strife and deal with it on your own. Keeping your problems to yourself can help aid the privacy in your life. A private life is a happy life. A good way to release tension is to keep a journal and document what you’re going through, good and bad. It’s easier to open up to an object, something that is non-judgmental. That way you have no problem in really saying how you feel. Figure out what you’re doing right or wrong. Then figure out a way to fix it.
Miquira J.
