#HipHop4Her: Sex Before Marriage, Is it OK?

Let’s Talk About Sex Before Marriage

When we are younger, and begin to like boys our mothers sit us down to talk about sex. They always tell us to save our virginity until we find the right one. And by the right one that usually means our husband who we will love and cherish forever. Maybe it was more likely back then for that to happen. But now, we can’t seem to wait. Before you know it, you’re lost in the moment with him and he’s sliding a condom on.

At that moment is when you hope he is the “right one” that your mom was talking about. After we lose our virginity, the good side of our conscious makes us feel guilty. We have gone against our mother’s word and you’re damned to hell. The bad side of our conscious tells us that we lost our virginity to someone we love, and the feeling of being a new woman welcomes us.

Is it Immoral to Have Sex???

So what’s so wrong about losing your virginity and engaging in sex before marriage? What is it that makes us really feel bad or do we even feel bad? I would say that it depends on the person. Religion doesn’t seem to affect people anymore, being that having sex before marriage is considered a sin. There are females who may be very religious or grew up in a religious household that have had sex before marriage. I wouldn’t say that it was immoral to have sex before marriage. I would say it is smart and at the same time it has the ability to make you regret it.

It’s smart because sometimes marriage isn’t the fairy tale you thought it would be. The man you’re attracted to on every other level, you’re not attracted to sexually. So now you’re stuck with a man you can’t vibe with in bed. How can you realistically survive in a marriage like that?

I don’t think that women should be promiscuous but they should save it for the right one, even if it ends up not being the one you marry. Because having sex with the wrong guy will cause you to regret it. No good memory will come out of your first time, just the fact that it was unbearably painful. When the right guy comes along, a guy better than the one you lost it to. The way you feel for him will make you wish you lost your virginity to him instead.

Virginity vs. Everybody

Having sex before marriage is more realistic than staying a virgin until marriage. The reason is that love just consumes us and makes us high. We like the feeling that a man gives us so we are willing to give them all of us. Even if he is the wrong guy, but we learn from that mistake and keep our legs crossed until the right one comes along.

Miquira J.