Have you ever noticed that all single women ask the same question, “where can I find a good man?” We read all of these books on how to attract good men and even go as far as to change our look, but the one thing we fail to realize is men are attracted to women who love themselves.
“If a woman is looking for a man to make her happy, she’s in for a surprise… A man is incapable of making a woman happy. If you don’t have it together, don’t expect a man to put you together. ” – Steve Harvey
Steve Harvey, author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, said it best. A man is incapable of making a woman whole. We have to fully love ourselves in order to give a healthy amount of love to others. I went to the library recently, and I opened a romance novel whose first page read “women give their love away to everyone else but themselves”. I couldn’t disagree with that statement as I’m sure most women cannot, but it made me think about my actions. Women are lovers and givers naturally, but we must train ourselves to detach this notion that self-love is selfish. A man is enamoured by a woman who can survive without him but creates a space in her live to with him. So the answer to your question of “where can I find a good man” is within yourself. The humble, kind, patient man that you so desire is found in the woman that you become. You have to possess the traits you so desire to attract within another human being, because he/she can never give you what you don’t naturally give yourself.
On your journey to finding a good man, I hope you ladies find him within yourself. Become complete to have enough to give.
Annice Terre’ | IG: @anniceterre_ | Twitter: @anniceterre_
