#HipHop4Her: Are You In A Long Distance Relationship?

Are You In A Long Distance Relationship?

Being in a 100 percent committed relationship is tough, it’s like building a house. You need a good foundation before building anything. If that foundation isn’t good, one blow from the wolf and the house is coming down. Imagine trying to build that house from two different locations, you’re on the west coast and he’s in the east coast or he’s in a totally different country. How do you build a strong relationship when you’re so far apart? If you love them, what do you need to do to make sure the relationship pushes through? Time takes a toll on you and the negative space in your bed eats away at you every morning. A long distance relationship is ten times harder to work out than a relationship where the partners are in proximity. \ut with the help of communication, cooperation, trust, and the willingness to be adventurous the relationship has a chance to flourish.

From Visually

Communication is THE most important aspect of a long distance relationship without this the relationship is basically non-existent. I’m talking about the basic level of communication and the deep level of communication, meaning that on the basic level there should constant communication. There should be phone calls, texts, pictures being sent back and forth, and video chats. Both should know that the other is loved and since you can’t physically send your love and affection then technology should do the trick. Being in constant communication with one another lets the each other know that you’re still on their mind. Even if one of you sending a random “I love you text” does the heart good.

Being cooperative is also important because there will be times of frustration and misunderstandings. But both parties have to be willing to work things through and be an active participant in the relationship. Cooperation is hard when things can get lost in translation, or when there is a time difference. You have to be willing to work together to find the perfect times to video chat and be open with one another about the frustrations you’re experiencing.

Trust is also a big component of maintaining a healthy long distance relationship. Being on opposite ends of the earth makes it harder for a person to instill trust in another. Since they are not together it’s hard to know a person’ actions in certain situations, unless they were together prior to the long distance. If not, there is no proof that this person is trustworthy, you can only trust their words. That when they say they are being faithful they are doing exactly that. Yes, they can say that and still be cheating with every girl in town but it is up to you to trust that person. Trust is a hard aspect to gain in a relationship because it takes so much time to build.

Lastly, the willingness to be adventurous is needed because under certain circumstances both people need to be open-minded. To make sure the spark remains in the relationship don’t be afraid to send racy photos to each other. It will remind him how good you look with no clothes on. Have phone sex, go old school and send love letters. When you have enough money take a trip out to see him or vice versa. Dedication and commitment is needed from both ends to make the relationship last.