When two people come together, it’s like two worlds become one complete one. His family becomes familiar with you and vice versa. Your friends tell you if they approve or not and his friends… well they don’t really put too much thought into it. Everything is fine, until you realize that his friends aren’t the best influence. The more you get to know them or just evaluate their behavior the less you begin to appreciate their company. How can you deal with the inappropriateness or their lack of maturity I should say?
It’s hard to just accept his friends when you have a good man, and his friends are bad influences. They aren’t exactly faithful to their girlfriends, their unfitting jokes, and just their lifestyle altogether frustrates you. I’m sure no woman would want these kinds of behaviors to rub off on their boyfriends. However, what can you say or do to help the situation?
As long as your boyfriend knows how his friends are and knows how to handle himself around them then it shouldn’t be so bad. It’s different if his demeanor changes when he goes from being with you to being with his boys. There should be no reason for him to switch his ways, even if it’s to impress his friends. Regardless, you should come first and he should always respect you and the relationship.
But if he does act different, put him in the doghouse and explain to him how you feel about his friends. Also bring up that he switches how he is with you compared to how he is with his friends. Although his behavior is expected to change, it shouldn’t be to the point where he’s acting single or embarrassing you. Since you can’t really make his friends vanish you have to find some way to make it easier for you to deal with them AND for you to trust your boyfriend with them.