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It seems that the love of booties start from young. I was walking home one day, and a mother and her son were standing as the mother spoke to her friend. Then randomly the son started smacking his mother’s bodacious booty. Even kicking it just to see it jiggle. I of course laughed to myself, wondering why boys have this obsession with their mothers butt. I have even seen my own brother rub my mothers butt as if he was trying to get a genie out of her. The first time they do it, it comes as a shock, then eventually you have to tell them to stop being fresh. Although that’s your son, you must know how far is too far. Little boys love their mothers, and it’s due to the Oedipus Rex complex.

The Oedipus complex occurs in young boys when they realize that there is a difference between his mother and his father also realizing he is more like the father. This is where the son begins to understand gender differences. The son begins to form a sexual attachment to his mother. Which is probably why many sons smack their mothers butt, poke their breast or rest their head on the two bags. Since the son develops this sexual attachment, they may have a tendency to be jealous of the father. The son may want to exclude him. According to the research done by Sigmund Freud, boys experience the Oedipus Rex complex between the ages 3-5. But some psychological researchers have experienced this complex in boys younger than three.

Essentially, a boy desires his mother and experiences anger towards his father. Much like the tragedy of Oedipus Rex, hence the name of the complex. If a son watches his father rubbing on his mother, he will most likely do the same because he sees himself as a replacement for his father. Obviously that will never happen, because he it’s not that he wants to be his father. He is identifying with his father, as someone who is similar to him. The son will then develop a healthy sexual identity growing up. Don’t be freaked out by the way your son may look at your naked body, or spanks you. He’s simply going through his Oedipal phase.

If you got it, flaunt it right? I believe this is true. If you have nice teeth, you should smile more. You have nice legs; show them off in the sexiest heels. If you have a nice butt, alright maybe you shouldn’t take every picture showing your butt. After a while it’s like OK, we get it! Of course women bask in their beauty, but at the same time it is also distasteful to constantly show off what you’re working with. So often I see women taking pictures in itty-bitty shorts, or laying down in their bra. Honestly half the time, it’s usually these type of females who have serious self-esteem issues. They seek the heart-eye emoji’s and the full inboxes.

How can anyone, matter of fact any MAN take a women like this seriously? What does she have to offer if she’s already offering it to everybody else? And these are the same females crying “lonely” when it’s raining out. GIRL BYE! It shouldn’t take instagram and Facebook “likes” to make a woman feel better. I believe she has to love herself enough to be modest, be mysterious and build standards for herself. No one needs to know that you’re feeling horny tonight, or that your panties match your bra. Keep it to yourself.

The same thing goes for clothing. Something that many of women choose not to put on. I think there is a fine line between sexy and tacky. Wearing a dress with a deep plunge in the front or back can be sexy. Wearing a sheer shirt with pasties is tacky. And wearing a sheer shirt without covering your breast is even worse. You know the saying “less is more?” Yea, well it does not apply in this area. Women make this mistake where just because a celebrity did it, we can do it too… NO. We cannot always pull off something Rihanna wore. She’s Rihanna for a reason.

I always think of it this way, if the top half of the outfit is showing something, then the bottom half should be modest. The men don’t need to see everything. You want to actually awe him when he finally gets to take your clothes off. So few women realize that when they show less, they become more appealing. They look as if they can hold conversation, rather than just hold it down in the bedroom. They look worthy of being “wifey material.” Try covering up for once.

Miquira J.