A number of celebrity marriages ended this year, relationships we thought would last forever. Forever doesn’t seem like a long time any more, forever is just an overused “I love you.” It has no meaning and no depth. The person you thought were for better or for worse really isn’t because he was unfaithful, disloyal, abusive, or just a negative energy in your life. You realize that it’s time to exit from such a destructive marriage. That’s when you ask for a divorce. Never in your life would you think that you would be getting divorced from the man you thought was the love of your life. The divorce rate is said to be between 40-50 percent and increases for every subsequent marriage.
There are many reasons why couples’ marriages end in divorce. According to MSN, the top eight reasons that marriages end in divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality, lack of preparation and abuse. Majority of these reasons can be prevented with counseling and communication between the couple. When your partner communicates issues to you about the relationship it’s important to listen. Those issues just may be the leading cause of your future divorce. When the tension is rising it will benefit the both of you to attend counseling and try to work the marriage out. A lot of couples don’t think to do this or don’t want to do this because counseling takes time. Healing takes time and patience, so a marriage isn’t going to go back to normal over night.
Divorce is often described as ugly and it’s not fun on the beach. For the divorce to be healthy and go smoothly communication, cooperation, and mediation are needed according to the American Psychological Association. Divorce can cause a flood of emotions to come flowing out of you. In order to maintain peace within yourself you must be kind and compassionate to yourself. This will make the divorce a little easier to cope with. Mediation is helpful compared to the battlefield of a courtroom. Sitting down with a psychologist or therapist can help the both of you reach decisions and agreements, rather than engaging in a heated argument due to frustration. During a time where your emotions aren’t getting the best of you, write down everything you will like to discuss with your soon-to-be ex-husband. You can use what you wrote as a guide so that you don’t miss anything.
Although the divorce rate is relatively high, there is still hope for us ladies! The divorce rate is slowly decreasing, which means we have more than a 50/50 chance to get married and stay married. Surprisingly, education is a factor in whether marriages last. According to the Wall Street Journal, college graduates are more like to get married and stay married. A study found that only a quarter of college graduates get divorced by middle age. Divorce is more common among those who have an education less than a bachelor’s degree. So keep that in mind before you say “I do” at the altar.