I didn’t think that many women masturbated, it was a foreign concept to me. It wasn’t until I went to college and was surrounded by vibrators and dildo stuffed dressers that it wasn’t so foreign anymore. Although I was repulsed by the idea, these toys seemed to be in the appropriate setting. A type of setting full of promiscuity, curiosity, and loneliness. To avoid being called the campus whore, women stored “John” away for safekeeping. And use him when needed. Out of my friends, it seemed that I was the only one who hadn’t tried any form of masturbation. The only time I thought about touching myself “down there” was either to clean myself or to insert a tampon. I was the masturbation virgin.
Masturbating is more common amongst women than we think. More than half of American women ages 18-49, masturbate at least once every 3 months. Masturbating is actually healthy, it increases blood flow throughout your body and releases “feel-good” brain chemicals called endorphins. It also improves your sex life because you get to know your own body and discover your sexual desires. This can help the intimacy in your relationship because you can tell him how to please you, bringing the two of you closer.
Self-love is the best type of love! So if you’re thinking about trying masturbation for the first time find a toy that you’re comfortable with using. Even if it’s your own fingers. Vibrators come in all different shapes and sizes, so it may be difficult to find the right one right away. You can be a plain Jane and buy a simple clitoral vibrator or you can get fancy.
There are vibrators with different speeds, three in one designs for clitoral, anal and G-spot stimulation. You can get a vibrator with a rotating shaft, if you need that extra oomph! If you want to play in style, Spencer’s offers a vibrator disguised as lipstick for $12.99. If you need more tongue action, oral stimulation toys mimic the motions of an actual tongue, some offer different speeds and are customizable.
Dildos seem to be the forbidden toy. It is the toy for the Kinks, Freaks and Nymphos. But it doesn’t hurt to branch out to dildo land. Just like vibrators there’s a great variety of dildos. They come in different sizes and textures. Many offer a real-life feel (referring to the skin) or are just smooth. The variation allows women to choose which one they prefer for playtime. Believe it or not there are also glass dildos that warm up or cool down depending on what you prefer. These may be used in the shower or bathtub. Some dildos can also come with a suction that can stick to the floor, a table, a door, so you can reach a climax from any angle.
Try to keep your hands free during your solo sex session for some nipple stimulation. Nipples are full of nerves that can make masturbation more enjoyable and make the orgasm more intense. Or be completely hands free and buy nipple clamps, a pump or a teaser.
You’re probably wondering how exactly does a women masturbate? Are there positions, or appropriate places? Cosmopolitan offers different positions for masturbation, in case you get bored with just lying down. If you’re the type that needs to get in the mood, run a bubble bath with some wine or light some candles in the room and put some music on. Don’t forget to bring your friend.
So where exactly do you get these toys from? If you’re shy about shopping for sex toys but rather go to an actual store, dress up incognito and head to Spencer’s, Ricky’s or a regular adult store. You can make it a date with the girls if you can’t bear to go alone. Rather skip the line? Adam and Eve is a good website for adult toys, if it’s your first time looking for toys just the homepage alone will make you blush. Masturbation is an off limits type of subject, but it is something to consider. It may introduce you to a whole new level of your sex life.
