Self-love

Challenges Connect Us All

Life is replete with challenges, and if there is anything that connects humanity, it is struggle and desire for connectivity. Despite the commonalities, those under the shine of the spotlight feel those things with greater intensity.

Yet the attempt to balance them with stardom becomes a heavy thing that often bubbles to the surface and spills over, as Ari Lennox has recently demonstrated.

Ari Lennox: An Open Book

Ari Lennox is known to be one who has been more expressive about her journey. So, seeing her open about her vulnerabilities wasn’t entirely foreign to her fans. But to others, such is new news. But while personal, her statements were not without merit.

Lennox went to social media, revealing her tussle with validation issues. On August 30th, the artist posted:

“I hate that I crave validation in every ounce of my life. It’s truly a miserable existence.”

And that was only the beginning of what Lennox had to share. The artist went on. As she did, it became more evident that her struggles were profound. Lennox was indeed dealing with a soul-crushing misery. Despite the talented singer’s success, it has yet to change her self-perspective.

As Lennox so painfully went on to share, “I hate that I wish I was cool. I’m embarrassing. I don’t even know when I’ll start loving myself. I don’t even know if it’s possible.”

Lennox Does Not Walk Alone

As sad as it is to hear, it’s a perspective many suffer with—the feeling of not being enough. The fight to love oneself is more prevalent than most understand.

In a 2019 article in Psychology Today, it was written that “roughly 85% of people worldwide (adults and adolescents) have low self-esteem.” And that is staggering. To think that so much of the populace struggles with feelings of inadequacy is a sobering reality. It is undoubtedly one that should ring an alarm.

What Can Be Gleaned?

Lennox’s vulnerability offers a lot more than knowledge of the performer. It provides a point of connection and understanding. “It is easy to believe because someone is talented and has made it that, it erases those human parts. Nothing is more beautiful than knowing this is the furthest thing from the truth.

Success does not separate us. When those who have managed to make it show their vulnerabilities, it reminds us just how connected we are.

All The Best To Lennox

Lennox continues to wage her war to find true love within herself and self-acceptance. And, incredibly, several of her peers have stepped in to show her support as she continues the work. And it is with great hopes that she will discover what she longs for.

As Lennox has noted, nothing tastes quite as sweet when there is a lack from within. As she states, “I can’t even enjoy all that I’ve created for myself.”

And with that, we send health, healing, and light her way.

R&B singer Ari Lennox is now very clear about what she wants from a relationship.

Ari Lennox has no more to do with abusive relationships. Ari now wants a “nice” person, as she also talked about in an entertaining interview with the Breakfast Club Power 105.1FM.

Although it sounds all like a joke, Ari doesn’t seem happy with the experiences she had dating up-and-coming rappers “they just won’t say it ’til like, you like them. And it’s just like, ‘Well, I’m ’bout to go to the studio.’ What?! Why?! What studio?”

And it didn’t stop at that. Ari Lennox has learned a lesson from a relationship with someone who “pretended like the singing part didn’t even exist” and “always kinda diminished everything about me,” Lennox explained.

Ari is a 2022 nominee BET Award for Best Female R&B/Pop Artist Nominee.

Meanwhile, the Breakfast Club interview isn’t the first time Ari Lennox has been talking about the matter recently.

“Age/Sex/Location”

Before the release of her album “Age/Sex/Location” on Sep 9, Ari took some time explaining to J.Cole what the new album meant to her. The “Queen Space” artist recalled the past.

“I spent so much time seeing the god and good in some abusive people,” Ari Lennox’s message reads. “Neglecting my needs and self-worth. Romanticizing terrible people. Ignoring red flags… my opinions and those knots in my stomach when interacting with people I’m dating.”

And now, that’s in the past. “No more tiptoeing. No more docile. Providing grace and compassion to myself. Blocking those that no more serve me or just literally not responding… Allowing accountability and maturing…growth to happen…self-worth and self-love and inner work to happen,” Ari added.

What Next For Ari Lennox?

It is time to allow “desperation and neediness to fade…The end of searching for anything other than self-love and family. Pouring into me and giving the greatest love to me.”

The situation with her father, where they are not on talking terms now, “sucks.” It is one of the areas needing Lennox’s attention now. “I wanna continue my therapy alone, but I think that would probably be best because I know these are things that I’m even carrying into my dating life, you know what I’m saying…I do wanna be more compassionate because he went through a lot, you know, with foster care and abandonment issues and all kinds of like dark things, so I do recognize like why he is the way that he is,” Ari said.

Family Relationship Lessons for People

Several people identify with Ari’s father-daughter relationship issue.

Ama Deon feels so connected to the development. “I relate to her life and her music. Her disappointment came from dad, mine come from both, and it literally bled into my personal life. I’m forced to heal now, alone, so I get it ari,” he commented.

A father in a similar situation makes a case for such parents. “Man Im going thru it with my oldest daughters. Definitely made me choke up seeing Ari and thinking of my girls. But Envy is right. Parents need grace and forgiveness too. We arent perfect and most of us literally are doing the BEST WE CAN,” Damien Taylor said.

VonRay confessed that “as a father, it actually affected me seeing her get sad and choked up when she started talking about her issues with her dad. One thing is for sure, watching your daughter(s) cry will hit you hard every single time. No matter what the situation is, he needs to reach out and they need to heal together once and for all. Ari, y’all are in my Prayers….️”

And so many more prayers for her and different families going through stress and strain continue beyond the social media spaces.

Written by Nonye Aghaji

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